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Summary:
The ability to become aroused varies, and many women have problems with their sex life from time to time depending on circumstances [stress at work, a bereavement, recent childbirth, lack of privacy, or problems in the relationship], and this does not mean that you have a ‘sexual dysfunction’. However if you are not responding, or sex doesn’t feel good and it is never satisfying or it is causing you distress you may indeed have a sexual problem.
When a woman becomes aroused: she feels a surge of warmth and fullness in her pelvis, the vagina becomes congested and lubricated, the labia [lips surrounding the opening to the vagina] become swollen, the clitoris increases in length and width, the nipples become erect and some women have a 'rash' across their face and neck during the height of arousal. General muscle tension builds up and the heart and breathing rate and blood pressure increase.
Arousal reinforces desire and they continue together with ongoing stimulation, and even if orgasm does not occur on every occasion, most women enjoy the sensations that go with sexual arousal, and enjoy the emotional and physical intimacy and feelings of satisfaction of their own and their partner’s pleasure.
The capacity for arousal depends on a lot of things [hormones, general health and wellbeing, relationship harmony, alcohol / drug abuse, and daily stresses].
If you have a problem with sexual arousal then consider the factors that may be causing you not to respond, and do your best to eliminate those factors, and consider what does enhance your arousal, and discuss these with your partner, and apply them during your lovemaking. Try to prioritize your sex lives, and spend more private time with your partner focussing on intimacy, exploring your own sexual needs and guiding your partner to gain the maximum possible sensual and sexual stimulation and arousal. If this does not help then seek professional help from your doctor, a sex therapist or psychologist who deals with sexual problems.
