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BODY IMAGE AND SELF-WORTH
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In order to accept love, a person needs to feel lovable, or at least to like her /himself. People who dislike their bodies tend to dissociate from them and to deny feelings, and are therefore unable to express what they like or dislike.
It may be difficult for the partner to reach them unless their feelings of unworthiness are overcome. A person who does not like or respect her/himself cannot believe that anyone can love or appreciate them, and may defend by criticism, perfectionism or withdrawal. Treatment focuses on reducing these defences and improving self esteem.
The media show slim lithe young and beautiful people as being ‘sexy’ and those who do not fit the bill sometimes consider that they cannot be considered sexy.
Exercise: Consider what you like most and then least about your body, examine yourself as if you were an artist, draw a picture of yourself and consider how you have been distorting your own image - if you really feel strongly that change is necessary then consider: treatment for acne, hair care, attention to clothes, exercise, diet, or even plastic surgery – if it would help you to love your body.
But above all - do listen to your partner, as very often he/she says that he/she loves you as you are- and so many people don’t hear that!
