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“Not only do men and women communicate differently, but they think, perceive, react, respond, love, need and appreciate differently. They almost seem to be from different planets, speaking different languages and needing different nourishment” [1]
Women generally take longer than men to become sexually aroused. Up to 75% of men ejaculate within 2-3 minutes after the onset of intercourse, while the majority of women require about 13 minutes of stimulation to experience an orgasm [2]. Difficulties may arise through lack of awareness about this and about the fact that most women need direct clitoral stimulation before, during or after intercourse in order to reach a climax. These differences may lead to anxiety or guilt about her “poor response” which may further inhibit her ability to respond, and result in arousal or orgasmic dysfunction. This may be further compounded by her partner becoming anxious about not satisfying her, and as result he too may develop a sexual dysfunction.
There are many cultural and religious factors that result in difficulties based on preconceived ideas about the role of men and women and their sexual behaviour. Men and women have their peaks and valleys of desire, and problems arise when these do not coincide often. Women tolerate long periods of abstinence better than men [2]. An understanding of these differences may prevent anxiety, guilt, feelings of rejection and sexual dysfunction.
