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The Intention of Sex Therapy
Relationship Therapy
Relationship Exercises
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These exercises help you to focus on important issue, discuss them, reflect on them, and start to work on them effectively.
- Write out what each of you considers to be the important ingredients of a satisfying loving relationship in the form of a 'wish list'.
- Write your list in the present tense, of what is real--- e.g. "we are good friends", "we show affection ", " we enjoy our leisure together in the following ways --".
- Share your sentences, and discuss what you consider is actually present or absent.
- a - Rank the issues present in order of importance.
- b - Then rank the missing ones that each of you considers desirable, circling the items that would be most difficult to achieve.
- c - Talk about the good aspects {strengths} and the weak aspects, and how you can strengthen the latter.
- List your conflicts in the order that cause the most problems between you.
- What are the things that irritate or bother you that your partner does that make you feel angry, afraid, suspicious, hurt or bitter etc.
- Consider how you usually resolve these issues {withdrawal, sulking, shouting}
- Write down how you would like that behaviour to be modified.
- Discuss how each of you feels those issues could be resolved more effectively.
- List the things you like/admire/enjoy most about your partner.
- List the things you like least about your partner. Discuss these issues.
- What were the important things that attracted you to your partner when you met? Consider if these aspects have changed, and what you feel about the loss/es.
- List the things you would like your partner to do [perhaps that you have asked for already] in order of importance – e.g. what I want from my partner and don't get is:-----
- Each make a list of fun, interesting and enjoyable activities you would like to do with your partner [e.g. dancing, showering together, tennis, massage, cycling, walking].
- Pick one activity, and do it together at least once a week.
These exercises should help you to focus on the important issues and gain perspective about your relationship and give you ways to improve on your interactions
